Why some women will ALWAYS be single: A cautionary tale

Mixed signals.  We all hate them, and , ladies, whether you want to admit it or not, we’ve all sent them.  I’ve heard a lot of my women friends over the years talk about how frustrated they are because the men they are dating send mixed signals.  I’m of the mind that, in general, the complete opposite is true.  Men might lie, but they almost NEVER send mixed signals.   I know that sounds like an oxymoron, but we’ll explore that theme at a later date.  Women, on the other hand, are blessed with a level of doublespeak that can boggle the mind.  And, really, you can’t blame us.  Women are taught to be polite and agreeable in society, which often means agreeing with things we don’t necessarily agree with or doing things we don’t necessarily want to do.  But again, not the point of my post today.

A good friend of mine, who is male, was really feeling a woman.  He was feeling her, and he made his feelings clear.  See?  No mixed signals.  The woman, however, was FULL of mixed signals.  She would flirt with him via twitter, send him pictures (not naughty pictures, but, you know…pictures.).  She would talk about coming to visit him, although he lived SEVERAL states away.  Finally, right before Valentine’s Day, she decided to come up for a visit.  My friend, anticipating her arrival, took a cooking class, so that he could impress her.  Upon her arrival, he met her at the airport with chocolate covered strawberries and a lovely bouquet of flowers.  He then announced they were going to head to Ruth’s Chris Steakhouse for dinner.  When he brought her back to his apartment, he made it clear that he would be sleeping on the couch, and she could have his bedroom; the perfect gentleman.  Nice, right?  Apparently not, because she got angry at the chocolates and flowers and freaked out when my friend told her he was taking her to Ruth’s Chris.  The next day, my friend unveiled his cooking skills and when he announced that the food was ready, she proceeded to tell him that she wasn’t hungry….AFTER HE SPENT ALL THAT TIME COOKING!!!!  What is going on here?  Needless to say, the rest of the weekend was awkward and they didn’t speak much until he dropped her off at the airport.

Stories like this always piss me off because women always say they want a guy to do nice things for them.  They want men to show them that they are special.   They want a man to be honest with his feelings, but when he is, THIS is what he gets?  I mean, I’m trying to be diplomatic about this whole thing because I wasn’t there, so I guess I don’t know the whole story, but I do know this:  As a woman, unless we’ve been friends for many, many years (or I am romantically interested), I don’t go visiting men who live several states away. But maybe that’s just me.    Also, Ruth’s Chris, flowers and chocolate covered strawberries by edible arrangments don’t sound like a death sentence to me.  They also don’t sound like a marriage proposal, either.  And she wonders why she’s still single?  I’m not sure why this girl freaked out, but I do know this: If she keeps this behavior up she, and women like her, will be single for a very, very long time.  Eh…But I guess she’ll have her mixed messages to keep her warm….